We Attract Into Our Lives What We Are

“Surround yourself with people who hold you to a higher standard.” –Benjamin P. Hardy

According to recent research studies, most people choose their friends on a proximity basis.

If they’re nearby, they’re simply more likely to become a friend.

Think back to when you were in a school classroom. Who did you make friends with? It probably wasn’t the people with similar ideological values; more likely, it was those sitting next to you, or group project partners.

One of Jim Rohn’s most famous axioms: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

Who are you?

What are you?

Are you someone who settles — in dating, jobs, health, finances, relationships, and lifestyle?

Are you lazy? Unmotivated? Bored?

Do you even care?

Odds are, the 5 people you spend the most time with have similar answers to yours.

If you surround yourself with losers, you probably won’t be a winner.

But if you surround yourself with winners…

You’ll probably become a winner yourself, eventually. Even despite yourself.

What Are You Attracting?

“Your mind is a magnet. You don’t attract what you need or what you want; you attract who you are.” -Carlos Santana

Most people — the majority of society — won’t ever achieve true success.

This is largely because they attract characteristics of who they are — lazy, settling, and low standards. As such, they attract people and circumstances that match these values.

The funny thing is, most people desperately want success, or at least the “idea” of success. They want the freedom to work their own hours, to vacation, to travel, and to live a fulfilling life, all with financial stability.

But simply wanting an idea won’t attract it into your life — not without action. In fact, the only things you’re attracting into your life is what you are.

Here’s a sneaky truth about the standards of your life — your life reflects your standards.

If you have low standards, your life will undoubtedly reflect that.

Codependent, emotionally stunted individuals rarely attract mature, emotionally healthy romantic partners.

High performers focused on personal development rarely pair with individuals with low standards.

You attract what you are.

What are you?

Imagine you had a twin — something who was identical to you with behavior, values, and ideals.

What would they be like?

If you described this person to someone else, what would you say?

Would you hesitate to describe them as a positive, motivated individual with high standards? Would you be lying if you said this person was a brave, honest, mature, healthy person with clear goals and plans of action to achieve success?

That type of person is rare. Most of society is ordinary. Most people don’t care about personal development, growth, or becoming better versions of themselves.

Why should it surprise these individuals they only attract people like themselves?

If you want to achieve success and become your best self, you need to surround yourself with people who have higher standards than you.

“Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning.” –Benjamin P. Hardy

You Are Limiting Your Success

“Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something attract by the person you become.” Hal Elrod, The Miracle Morning

If you desperately want success in some area of life — losing weight, finding a unicorn in the dating world, becoming debt-free — these successes are actually attracted to a specific type of person.

The type of people that attract this type of success are very different from each other, but they all share some common characteristics.

One of the main traits is an insatiable desire to learn more. They are intensely focused on personal development and becoming better versions of themselves.

Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal growth. Personal growth requires characteristics that are prerequisites to achieve any meaningful success: mental resilience, humility, consistency, and willingness to overcome difficult obstacles.

Athletes and fitness junkies rarely develop romantic relationships with individuals who don’t value their lifestyle of hard work, practice, and dedication.

Why would they?

If you want to begin achieving true success, you need to start working on personal development.

Here’s where you can find free or affordable courses to get you started on personal growth:

If you’re not learning, you’re limiting your odds of success. You attract what you are — cultivate habits of successful people if you want to attract that type of success.

“Every skill you acquire doubles your odds of success.” -Scott Adams

Who Will You Become?

“Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you end up depends entirely on who you choose to be from this moment forward.” -Hal Elrod

We can’t change the past. But the future is entirely up to us. We can create whatever life we want — as long as we’re willing to pay the price.

Who you will become is entirely up to you.

What do you want to attract? Then become that.

If you want to attract success, purpose, and commitment, then surround yourself with individuals who are already there.

In the words of Benjamin Foley, “If your lifestyle does not add to your healing, it will subtract from it.




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  1. Kevin Hoelscher says:

    Yes! Always keep learning. Right now I’m reading Sean McMeekin’s “The Russian Revolution”, tells of how the Romanov dynasty was eventually replaced by Lenin’s USSR from 1917-1922…good stuff.

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