1. We Need to Stop Masturbating and Having Sex
I’m not against sex. But everyday, sex creeps alarmingly closer to the worst parts of its already-vile and twisted forms. Once a sacred bond in marriage, sex has become so overwhelmingly casual that to not partake after the 3rd date is ridiculous, waiting until marriage is unthinkable, and a virgin who has made it through college is the culture’s new unicorn.
We’ve created an entire grading system that praises those with the most (and most intense) sexual encounters possible, but the destructive effects of chronic masturbation and promiscuous sex outside of marriage are too many to count.
2. We probably need to quit our jobs
Unless you’re a member of that tiny number of folks who actually enjoy going to work (deep down, you actually don’t want to kill your coworkers and boss and then blow up the building), we need to obliterate the attitude that we need to stay at a crap job to pay the bills. Crap jobs suck, and you suck if you don’t have the guts to do what you love. Be awesome instead.
I’m not saying to jump out of a plane with no parachute and hope to land on a nice trampoline (that’s not a good idea). But we need to jump, soon. We need to kick the “golden” promise of $22/hr + a bigger desk in the face.
3. We need to stop meeting up with old friends
Better put, we need to stop meeting up with friends we don’t like. There are people who are wonderful for us – they give us life, energy, laughter, encouragement, and a great time over drinks. But there are other “friends” who only produce guilt, anxiety, stress, impatience, and discomfort with us.
Stop meeting with those people.
We need to grow some collective balls and say no. Stop co-signing for their inability to face the truth about themselves and their destructive relationships. Stop being a sponge for other people’s negative emotions.
4. We need to b*%$#slap social media
We need to stop retreating into Instagram/Facebook/email (really, email?) at every 2-second period of silence. We need to stop checking to see if we missed the buzz of a text for the 4th time this minute.
Sure, it’s awkward. It’s can be kinda uncomfortable sitting in silence, especially with people you don’t really know. But silence isn’t the enemy – the phobia of “uncomfortability” is. We need to grow out of this immature, awkward, uncomfortable people group who can’t imagine facing the tension of silence and learn how to sit with the silence.
Tim Ferris, renowned author and entrepreneur, once said that the measure of our success is directly related to our ability to have uncomfortable conversations. What if that was true for you?
5. We need to stop living for Saturday and Sunday
“That’s literally what people do – put up with five days of misery for two days of heavy alcohol consumption.” -Thought Catalog
Society’s in a rut – we hate Monday mornings, they’re the most god-awful just-let-me-die worst periods of time to exist in America possible for middle class folks. Why? Just because they’re the farthest time away from Friday afternoon?
Life doesn’t happen 2.5 out of 7 days. In fact, you’re wasting a good chunk of life that you’ll never get back if you don’t see the value of all that you could do when A: you’re sober and B: it’s Monday through Thursday. Take back the 95% of value that you place on Friday to Sunday night and distribute it throughout the week again.
Don’t let the weekend own you.
6. We need to stop saying emotions are taboo, childish, and/or gay
Especially with guys.
Society suffers from a lot of ailments and atrophies, but one of the most suffocating stereotypes is that emotions should be swept under the rug. We shouldn’t be afraid to go to counseling or therapy (we also shouldn’t be afraid to talk about how it went). We shouldn’t punish people (especially boys) when they get sad, when they’re grieving, when they’re heartbroken, or when they’re going having a hard time going through some crap.
Do you want to see this flood of guys in perpetual boyhood actually become men?
Let them grow up.
7. We need to realize this ain’t Disney
The harsh truths – there is no gorgeous, helpless princess waiting for you to sweep her off her feet and fix her life. There is no prince charming that can fulfill your every wish and be your solid rock. There is no happily-ever-after without a sh*t-ton of terrifying emotional labors, massive self-sacrifice and selflessness, and near-herculean courage to make it through some nights. Ask anyone who’s actually gone the distance.
We need to stop looking for Mr. Right. We need to stop dumping women because suddenly, they’re not hot/funny/smart anymore when the real feelings come out. We need to stop hoping to be the knight in shining armor for the recently-broken-up.
We’re all in this together, people. If you really want to see the world become a better place, if you really want to see lives changed, then share this on Facebook and Twitter. And most importantly?
Dump society’s stereotypes like the clingy, immature, self-destructive relationship you’ve been in for way too long.