Making Friends When All Your College Friends Have Moved and You’re Lonely Until Your Wife Gets Home

Alone in splendour

I’ve recently gotten into craft beer. I live in San Diego, and we’re basically the craft beer capital of the galaxy. My palate has gradually changed from if-it’s-not-pink-zinfandel-I’m-not-interested to I-wonder-if-I-can-mix-black-coffee-bourbon-and-a-double-IPA-together.  [Read more…]

The Key to Your Personal and Professional Success in 2016

Why Sous Vide? — Consistency

“Consistency is far better than moments of greatness.” –Scott Ginsberg

There’s this blogger I follow on Facebook. I follow a lot of bloggers.

He posted a status last night. “Just an update about the blog for this past year! I had over 700,000 visitors. I had almost 30,000 views on my biggest day! Thanks for all the love!” Something like that.

The post had already gotten dozens of likes by the time I saw it. I scrolled through the comments. “Congratulations! What’s the one key to blogging success you can share with us??”

He wrote back:

“Find your niche, and be consistent with quality content.”

I spent the next hour torturing myself over this line. [Read more…]

Interview With an Addict: Why Resolutions Don’t Work

New Year's resolution

Robin is a friend of mine, from church (I’ve changed his name to keep his anonymity). We’ve known each other for almost 4 years. He doesn’t tell most people this, but he’s a recovering drug addict.

He has nearly 4 years of sobriety. He’s been working through a 12-step program for drug addiction; he has a sponsor, and he sponsors others himself. He’s changed from being a drug addict to a healthy, happy, and healed person.

I asked Robin if I could pick his brain on the similarities between getting sober and maintaining new year’s resolutions. Both are admirable goals; but how is it that people like Robin can become sober from the most addictive drugs in the world, yet most individuals who earnestly and eagerly set New Year’s resolutions can’t seem to stick with them for more than a month?

Here’s what he said. [Read more…]

Why Quiche is the Answer to Your Unfulfillment

quiche squircle

I don’t know what quiche is.

When I had this blog idea, I had to Google how to spell it. I typed in something like “K-E-I-C-H…E?”

I mean, I kinda know what it is. Sorta. It’s made of eggs, right? And green, gross stuff? Yeah, that’s right. It’s like an egg pie.

Sounds awful. [Read more…]

I Really Don’t Want to Go to Physical Therapy

a way to a healthy life

I went to the dentist today. I hate the dentist. hatehatehatehateHATE

They always make me feel like my teeth haven’t been brushed since they last dissected, poked, prodded, and harassed me mouth with pointy needles. “You really need to floss, these teeth do not look good at all” they scold me.

I don’t leave the dentist feeling refreshed. I don’t leave feeling good about my teeth. I go into the dentist expecting an emotional (and physical) MMA cage match against the sharp words and sharper drills of my dentist.

How about this guy just gets a new dentist, huh? Geez. What a wimp. [Read more…]

Why I Write When I Don’t Want to Write

Laptop Keyboard

I haven’t wanted to write for many months.

“I’ve lost the spark!” I would cry out, defending myself. “It’s tedious! I have nothing to say. I’m tapped out. Done. There are a million better blogs on life in your 20’s out there, and they’re full of interesting, better writing than mine. So it’s just as well.”

Ugh, the thought of posting “publish” again was nauseating. No one reads my blogs, I tell myself. No one shares it on social media. No one can even be bothered to stay on my blog post for longer than 2.3 seconds, according to my analytics page. [Read more…]

My Inspiration is Gone and I’m Depressingly Unfulfilled

Alone On The Foreshore

I mean, I don’t know.

Nearly 3 years ago, StuffGradsLike started as a Twitter account. There was no website, no blogs, no nothin’. Just some dumb thoughts about post-college life I thought were clever.

Then, it began to build momentum. I started a WordPress blog, and I wanted to write. I wanted to write about post-college life, and to help college graduates who were struggling. I had struggled – miraculously, I landed a full-time job as a writer with my English degree. I had also recently taken the famous personality test, StrengthsFinder. My results said that I would be a great fit for teaching, counseling, coaching, and mentoring types of jobs. [Read more…]

The 5 Biggest Obstacles Facing Millennials Who Want to Be Smart With Money

15386948767_c086fc4ee8_bMy student loans hung over my head like a rain cloud. All the time. How was I ever going to pay them off? I can’t. It’s too hard. I’ll pay the minimum, and I’ll try to not check my bank account more than once a week – anything more frequent was just depressing.

I hated feeling like I didn’t know how to control my money, but worse still, I had no idea what to do about it! I felt like a 6th grader at the school dance – too scared to make a move, sure that anything I tried would just backfire anyway. I’ll just play it safe and get another cup of punch.

If you’re sick of not being smart with your money, you’ll need to be aware of these 5 obstacles first. [Read more…]

3 Next Steps for Millennials Who Are Already Financially Stable

17102022497_84b7c9c342_bSo you don’t have loans (well, maybe you’re almost free of them). You’re living on your own. You’re paying the bills and you’ve still got enough for drinks on Friday night. You work hard, and you play hard.

This article is for a rarer breed of Millennial – those who find themselves on some pretty stable financial ground already. That means you’re essentially debt-free, you’re paying for major purchases yourself, and you probably have a job that pays pretty well and can support your lifestyle.

You probably have some notions about finances in your 20’s – you should do some things. Things like retirement, 401(k)’s, maybe setting aside some money by “investing” or whatever. Even if you’ve got the means to live a financially secure life, you probably aren’t using your money to its fullest potential

Here are 3 next steps to take once you’re financially stable.

1. Start Putting Money Into Your Employer’s 401(k) Plan

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3 Next Steps When You’re Broke and Financially Clueless in Your 20’s

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We’ve all been there. Maybe you’re there right now.

I was 23. I was unemployed, and my savings account was dwindling, fast. My main hobbies included sleeping in until 11:00am and binge-watching Netflix shows. Every day. These were my hobbies for two primary reasons: they made me forget the deplorable state of my life/finances, and it was free.

Don’t get me wrong, I was applying for jobs all the time. I would go through phases where I felt supremely motivated (out of either guilt, depression, or desperation) and I’d apply to dozens of jobs every day; I would also go through phases of utter discouragement and I’d watch an entire season of House of Cards in 12 hours. Then back to job-hunting. [Read more…]

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