It seems to me that every person who’s doing what I want to be doing – making a living writing inspirational books, blogging to thousands of followers, speaking to sold-out crowds – all have this ballin’ ass background.
They set a world record in some physical feat; racking up 400+ receiving yards in a professional NCAA football game, for instance. Maybe they won an Olympic medal or two. Almost all of them have a huge following and make a ton of money, which proves their expertise and yells “HEY YOU I’M RELEVANT” in your awestruck face.
Even the smaller fish have a lot going on. They built a blog that gained 100,000 followers in their first year. They created a product that hundreds of thousands of people bought. Also, they used to be face models. Obviously.
I’m not those things. Most of the time, I feel wildly insecure about that.
Who am I? Who am I?
What do I have to offer? I’ve never broken any records. I came in 2nd place in a medium-sized ping pong tournament in college one time? One time, I ate a 16″ pizza in 30 minutes by myself? …that’s just gross, right? Right.
Or maybe I’m the guy that was almost cut from the freshmen basketball team (despite playing basketball my entire life up to that point). Maybe I’m the guy that broke his ankle in the gym; not playing any sports, mind you – someone called my name, I turned around, and my gangly-awkward teenage body slipped and next thing I know I’m in a cast for 8 weeks.
I mean COME ON. What person would buy MY story? Not when they can buy the New York Times bestselling book on “How to Make Your life GREAT” written by a 6′ 4″ Adonis Cadillac-of-men former pro-football-player with amazing thoughts and an even better personality?
I know, I know. Comparing myself isn’t helpful. It’s not, and I shouldn’t.
But what do I have to offer??
Honestly, I can truly say I have expertise in a few things:
First, I found the love of my life and married her. My wife is my best friend, I love more than words can say, and thanks to intense counseling, obsessive self-reflection, and relentless self-sacrifice (I’d like to think, at least), we have a fantastic relationship and I love knowing that we’re going to spend the rest of our life together.
Second, I think I’m pretty good with money – specifically, money discipline. I tried writing this whole month-long blog series on finance, but I stopped after like 5 posts because there was nothing else to say. But those fundamentals – making a budget, limiting spending, paying off debt – were the very reason I paid off all my student loans in less than 3 years after graduation. (I might not know a damned thing about stock investment or 401(k)’s, but I know how to be smart with my income.)
Thrid, I can grill an amazing steak. (The key is butter. And searing it. Also seasoning. And garlic. And other things. Mmm.)
But I’m not an All-American Athlete! I don’t have a string of hotels with my last name flashing from the roof. I don’t have a best selling anything. And sadly, I’m only moderately attractive.
But I’m telling my story. If anything, I’m just getting better at knowing myself. That’s important. It’s important to know who you are, and you can learn that by…constantly posting blog articles that you hope people read and being honest with yourself and saying “You know what? I’m not THAT handsome – I mean, I’m fairly handsome – but that’s OK. And I have a moderately impressive beer belly goin’ on – the 6-pack abs are JUST underneath, though.”
I’m learning to be OK with myself and my story.
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