I’m in love with it. It makes me feel so good, to think about why my boss is terrible and that it’s not my fault. That, actually, might be my favorite part – deflecting the blame through criticizing and complaining. It was too hard, and I wasn’t trained well. If my boss wasn’t so demanding, I’d be more successful.
Just about everyone criticizes, condemns, and complains about stuff. Just about every day.
But we need to stop. Immediately.
What happens when we criticize people? We alienate from them. We add another layer of moldy acidic slime to that already-shaky relationship bridge, and instead of confronting problems, we resign to let cancer take over and watch our relationships – coworkers, colleagues, neighbors, and just our fellow man – fall apart.
We end up an old, bitter, angry person with nothing good to say about anything.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. -Benjamin Franklin
We’ve been deflecting blame and passing up on countless opportunities for self-improvement and restored relationships with our communities for too long. It’s because we criticize people and their actions. It’s because we complain about others.
And so we condemn those people we find disagreeable.
I’m not saying there is no room for frank, blunt conviction and reaction to the evils and wrongdoings of others – we all need to stand up for ourselves, others, and those less fortunate than us when faced with the evil and hurt of this world.
The way to start that isn’t by continuing the cycle of brokeness and selfishness – it’s through encouragement, forgiveness, and taking responsibility for ourselves.
What’s one way you can stop criticizing, condemning, or complaining this week? And more importantly:
What person will you become as a result?