I’ve started working a sales job. I wouldn’t say I’m a salesman, though. Actually, I would have never said that my whole life. I stutter and stammer, I fold at the first objection raised, I think bargaining and bartering is the worst thing in the world.
I started to feel the pressure either being good at my job or bad at my job these past few months. I would feel it when I woke up to another 9 hour day of making phone calls and expecting to close deals and sell people stuff. I can’t!
Here’s black-and-white thinking:
My numbers are low. That means I’m a bad worker. They’re going to fire me for being a bad worker. I’m terrible at my job, and they’re going to fire me. Probably soon. And rightly so.
So, yeah. I would wake up dreading work. My stomach was heavy, full of bricks and ice water. I would have to convince myself all day that I’m not a terrible worker, but the numbers are there, it’s irrefutable proof that I’m no good.
That’s black-and-white thinking. And if we think that way, we’ll wake up terrified of life.
Black-and-white thinking tricks us into hating ourselves and believing that we’re really as bad and no-good as we fear we are.
It’s not true.
It’s not true for my job, either.
Now, I wake up not being afraid to go to work in the morning, when I used to not even 2 months ago. Why? Because once I step back into the “gray area” of things, I see that the truth:
I’m a hecka hard worker.
I come in early, I stay late.
I’m a loyal, compassionate worker with integrity and trust.
If I can’t meet quotas, it’s not that I’m no good – I’m just not a good fit for the job. Which is fine.
What areas of your life do you need to stop thinking in black-and-white?